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The Year of Yes

I love stories about immersion experiences. A great example is Super Size Me, the now-famous film documenting the effect of a month’s worth of McDonald’s food on one Morgan Spurlock. The godfather of the genre may be George Plimpton, whose stories about his amateur ventures into various professional sports are classics. Another that I’ve only browsed at the bookstore is Nickled and Dimed, written by a woman who wanted to see if she could really live on a waitress’s paycheck for a year.

Now there’s The Year of Yes, the memoir of a woman who decided to accept every request for a date for an entire year. No more “I have to wash my hair,” or “my sister’s coming into town that night.” It was all “yes,” all the time. She went on 150 dates and ended up marrying one of the guys – a man, incidentally, she never would have considered under normal circumstances.

It strikes me that these are stories anyone could write (no offense to those who have obviously written them well). The key is total immersion in an unusual or unexpected experience. You have to be serious about whatever endeavor you’ve chosen, and then you have to document the experience mercilessly – knowing that your own frailties and shortcomings are a big part of the story.

The great thing about immersion stories is that they give the reader the feeling of being a fly on the wall – of participating in an interesting social experiment. Reality TV wants to make us feel the same way, but it fails. The cameras are too big. The situations are too contrived.

So what’s my point? I’m just thinking out loud.

January 18, 2006 - 7:08 pm

Sally - I should have written the decade of Yes. Kristen, let's reflect on one of our favorites: Trapper Jack. Ah… those were the days.

January 18, 2006 - 7:59 pm

Kristen - Ah, Trapper Jack. There were so many great facets to him — all of which were too bizarre to have made up… If only there were a show called: "The True Nashville Story: Trapper Jack."

January 18, 2006 - 9:28 pm

trace - you should check out "My Date with Drew." a documentary (although it often feels like a scripted movie) about a young man who grew up with a crush on Drew Barrymore, won $1100 on a game show on which she was the final answer and takes his prize money and 30 days to get a date with the love of his life. talk about immersion.

i loved this movie. it was about a resourceful guy with a dream who made it happen (with the help of creative, supportive, talented and connected friends).

furthermore, i thoroughly love the idea of saying yes to all the date offers, if only i had had one offer. (how pathetic am i?)

January 19, 2006 - 4:23 am

imron - 150 dates? Did Maria have a job during this time, or was she out every day hunting for dates and striking up conversations hoping to get asked out? I think that makes a big difference.

Anyhow, Matt it sounds like you wanted to have an immersion experience of your own. What would you pick?

January 19, 2006 - 4:04 pm

jason boyett - Hey, guys. Trace, thanks for the proud-big-sister comments.

One of the coolest immersion books I've read is The Know-It-All, by A.J. Jacobs, in which he tries to read the entire Encyclopedia Brittanica and documents everything he learns. Hilarious AND informative!

As a writer, I'm always thinking about this kind of thing, looking for an angle for a book. Let me know if any of you come up with one, so I can steal it.

January 19, 2006 - 9:28 pm

Donoghue Nation - I don't think Matt has the stomach or the commitment to truly pull off an immersion experience. Recall his (unfulfilled) promise to eat one Krispy Kreme per mile travelled by my hubby during the 2001 Ironman. That would have been over 140 donuts in about 12 hours. I forget the final tally, but he fell far short of that goal. If the man can't immerse himself in Krispy Kremes, then what, by God, can he be relied on to immerse himself in?!

Swim Class


Swim class with Daddy
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January 18, 2006 - 2:42 am

Drew, Amber and Megan - you could have warned us yesterday

January 18, 2006 - 3:26 am

Kristen - I agree with the Krizmans. ๐Ÿ˜‰

January 18, 2006 - 5:18 am

Matt - good point.

January 19, 2006 - 4:07 am

imron - too late. i was on flickr pre-warning. looks like a fun day in the pool!

Jason Boyett

I went through grades 7-12 with a guy named Jason Boyett. Up until a couple of years ago, he worked in the advertising and design business and wrote books on the side. His writing career has (relatively) recently taken more of a front-seat position in his life, and I see that Relevant Magazine is now publishing Jason’s daily journal from a mission trip to the Dominican Republic.

Check out the journal here. There will be a new entry every day this week. If you read today’s piece, you’ll discover that Jason spent last week traveling the Dominican Republic with Richie Furay, one of the founding members of Buffalo Springfield. Well, I ruined that surprise, but there’s more. Check it out.

Jason’s books are fun, informative reads. His subject matter ranges from a survey of the apocolypse to a guide for young men growing up. Best of all, they’re small and not burdensome to read on the train. Thanks Jason, for your economical style.

Here’s a link to his book page.

January 18, 2006 - 9:34 pm

trace - i love his books! it is strange to grow up with someone who shares experiences and then you read about them in his books 15 years later (e.g. the McCarter Milkshake references in Jason's book "Things You Should Know by Now" Relevant 2003).

i am amazed at the talent grown in the flat dry plains of Amarillo, Texas. it is such an honor a privilege to have watched you guys grow up and become so successful.

wow! that was the proud-big-sister-only-not-really-at-all rant, huh? you guys keep on truckin.

In case you haven’t heard…


Baby #2
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We’re pregnant with #2! My denial ended this past Friday when we went in for our first ultrasound. We saw our thirteen week old little one dancing around in my belly and sucking his/her?? thumb. This whole pregnancy thing is amazing. It’s easy to forget among all the gaggy first trimester stuff that there’s a real live baby in there! And apparently it’s no less mind blowing the second time around.

The official word is that this little nugget is scheduled to arrive July 21st. So, Miss Francis and the new kid in town might end up sharing a birthday (Francis’s birthday is July 15). Not ideal, but nothing that an annual birthday week extravaganza can’t cure.

January 16, 2006 - 3:46 pm

Michael - Whoa! Congats you guys, we love the Gulde's and this just means there's more to love! Take care.

January 16, 2006 - 4:16 pm

katherine petillo - Yeah! Congrats. We can't wait to meet the newest Gulde. We love the little nugget already.

January 16, 2006 - 10:46 pm

Kristen - Congratulations! We're so excited for each and everyone of us… The Guldes make the world a better place and I'm sure this little bit will be no exception. Imagine how great it will be when this one is born a TEXAN!!!

A little foreshadowing never hurt anyone… Love you.

January 17, 2006 - 3:37 pm

Donoghue Nation - Congrats Guldes! Here's hoping this one is a Michigan fan.

January 17, 2006 - 7:18 pm

trace - YIPPEE!!!!!! congrats.

January 19, 2006 - 2:34 am

Steve and Amy Lou - theres no one happier for you than us! We love you guys and cannot wait to meet this so-called #2…

January 19, 2006 - 10:38 pm

Kristen - Now, now, Amy & Bassett family, let's not get into the comparative war, i.e. "there's no one happier than us…"

'Cause We've got SPIRIT yes we do, We've got spirit how about you?!?

We've got MORE!, We've got MORE!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Texas-shaped creme pie


texas
Originally uploaded by The Gulde Family.

Our friends the Krizmans issued a challenge the other day. Apparently, their daughter came across a potato chip that was shaped like the state of Florida. I have to admit, the chip looks very much like the state, although I don’t know what happened to the western panhandle. Maybe a hurricane gobbled it up.

Anyway, they said something like “beat this, Guldes” when they posted the floridachip.

Amazingly, Francis pulled this oatmeal creme pie out of the box yesterday. She said, “Mommy!! Texas!” as she waddled over. In truth, it looked a lot more like Texas before Francis munched out part of the Gulf coast. But you get the idea.

January 16, 2006 - 1:50 am

Drew, Amber and Megan - VERY FUNNY…OKAY IF THAT IS HOW YOU WANT TO PLAY, IT'S ON GULDE

January 17, 2006 - 5:21 pm

Kristen - I bet Francis would love living in Texas!

January 17, 2006 - 10:02 pm

Matt - maybe that's what she was trying to tell us.